Ready, set, toilet success!
Every child is different, and there’s no perfect age to begin – the key is recognising when your child is ready.
Our ready, set toilet success guide is here to provide helpful guidance on the basics of toilet training, from recognising the signs of readiness to tackling common challenges. We’ll also point you towards trusted experts and organisations like ERIC, the NHS and others who can offer additional support when needed.
Support for ongoing toilet training challenges
If your child is struggling with toilet training well beyond the toddler years, you are not alone. Some children need extra time and support to master this skill, and challenges such as medical conditions, sensory sensitivities or anxiety can play a role. In this guide, you’ll find links to expert advice, practical strategies and a supportive community to help you navigate these difficulties. Whether you need personalised guidance or reassurance, we are here to support you every step of the way.
What is toilet training?
Toilet training is the process through which children learn to use the toilet independently, moving from nappies to using the potty or toilet. It’s an important developmental milestone and can be a significant moment for both children and parents. Generally, children begin this process between the ages of two and three, but every child is different.
The most important thing is to approach toilet training with patience, positivity and flexibility. Children may take a little time to master the process, and that’s completely normal. Take it one step at a time, and don’t hesitate to reach out for help if needed!
When should we start toilet training?
Every child is unique, so there’s no set age to start toilet training. But there are some signs that might indicate your child is ready:
- Staying dry for longer periods (at least two hours)
- Showing interest in adult bathroom habits (e.g. wanting to sit on the toilet or potty)
- Understanding simple instructions and being able to pull trousers up and down independently
- Telling you when they’ve soiled their nappy or being aware of it
It’s important to start when your child shows these signs rather than rushing into it. If you begin too early, it may lead to frustration for both you and your child.
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The basics
Introduce the potty or toilet
Begin by introducing the potty or toilet in a fun, stress-free way. Let your child explore it and explain what it’s for
Establish a routine
Encourage your child to sit on the potty at regular times, such as after meals or before bedtime
Positive reinforcement
Celebrate their successes with praise or small rewards like stickers. This builds positive associations with using the toilet.
Gradual transition from nappies
Once your child is comfortable with the potty, begin transitioning from nappies to training pants or pants.
Stay calm and consistent
Accidents are normal, and every child learns at their own pace.
Encouragement and support
Toilet training can be challenging, but maintaining a positive attitude can make a big difference.
Stay positive
Celebrate small victories and avoid negative reactions when accidents happen. Use praise and encouragement to motivate your child.
Patience is key
Every child will progress at their own pace, so try to stay calm even if there are setbacks or delays.
Avoid pressure
If your child resists, take a break and try again in a few weeks. Forcing the process can create anxiety for you and your child.
What to do if you struggle
It’s common for children to experience setbacks or challenges during toilet training.
Accidents are normal
Remind yourself and your child that accidents happen. Reassure them that it’s part of the learning process.
Regressions
Sometimes, children may have periods where they ‘forget’ what they’ve learned. This is especially common during times of stress, like starting school or welcoming a new sibling.
Fear of the toilet
Some children might feel scared or anxious about using the toilet. It’s important to be patient and gradually help them feel comfortable. You might try letting them use a potty instead of the toilet until they’re ready.
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76% of parents think children should be able to use the toilet independently in reception
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School staff report that 25% of children are not able to use the toilet independently
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70% of school staff report that pupils not being toilet trained has a moderate or major impact on class progress
This research was conducted by Savanta on behalf of Kindred2
When accidents happen
Accidents are a normal part of toilet training and do not mean your child is going back a step. Staying prepared can make handling them easier and reduce stress for both you and your child. Keep an ‘accident emergency kit’ on hand with wipes, spare clothes and a plastic bag for wet items when you’re out and about. At home, keep cleaning supplies within easy reach. When an accident happens, stay calm, reassure your child and remind them that next time, they can try to use the potty. Reacting with patience and understanding will help them feel more confident and reduce anxiety. Remember, every step, even the messy ones, is part of the learning process.
When to seek help
If toilet training is proving to be particularly difficult or your child seems distressed, it might be time to seek professional advice. Some signs that professional support could be helpful include:
- Ongoing resistance to using the toilet despite attempts over several months
- Signs of physical discomfort or pain while using the toilet (which could indicate a medical issue)
- Extreme anxiety or fear about toilet training
If your child is over four years old and still not trained, it might be worth speaking with a healthcare professional to rule out any underlying issues.
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ERIC offers in-depth support and information on toilet training, from signs of readiness to tackling common challenges. Visit their website for trusted guidance.
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The National Childbirth Trust (NCT) provides helpful advice and practical tips to make your toilet training journey easier. Check out their expert resources today.
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The NHS offers clear advice on when to start toilet training and how to manage challenges. Learn more from the health experts.
Here are answers to some frequently asked questions that might help you along the way to toilet training success.
Q: How do I know when my child is ready to start toilet training?
A: Look for signs of interest and readiness, such as staying dry for long periods, showing curiosity about the toilet, and being able to follow simple instructions.
Q: What should I do if my child is scared of the toilet?
A: Introduce the toilet or potty slowly, and offer lots of praise and reassurance. You could try a potty instead of a toilet initially.
Q: How long should toilet training take?
A: Every child is different, but most children are fully trained within a few months. Remember, setbacks are normal, and it’s important not to rush the process.
Q: What should I do if my child has accidents during toilet training?
A: Accidents are completely normal! Stay calm and positive, remind your child that everyone makes mistakes, and encourage them to try again next time. Consistency and patience are key.
Q: How can I encourage my child to use the toilet at home and when out and about?
A: Make sure your child is familiar with using the toilet at home first, then gradually introduce using public toilets by visiting less busy ones and letting them see how it works in a calm, relaxed setting.
Q: Should I use pull-ups or nappies during toilet training?
A: While some parents choose pull-ups as a transitional tool, many find it helpful to switch to underwear once their child is ready to use the toilet consistently, as it can help reinforce the idea of being ‘nappy-free’.
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Useful links and resources
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ERIC offers comprehensive advice on toilet training, from recognising readiness signs to handling setbacks, backed by expert resources and support for parents.
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NCT provides trusted, practical toilet training advice, including tips for different stages and support for any challenges that arise during the process.
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The NHS offers straightforward, evidence-based advice for parents on how to approach toilet training, signs of readiness, and when to seek additional support.
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Bladder & Bowel UK offers expert advice and a range of resources to support parents through the toilet training process.
