When school doesn’t sparkle anymore
Image: Woman and primary school-aged boy sitting on a sofa, both looking frustrated.
Children may become tired, reluctant to go in or even say they don’t like school anymore. This is completely normal, and there are lots of ways you can help.
Recognise the change
It’s natural for the ‘honeymoon period’ to wear off. Once the newness settles, children may start to notice the routine, the early mornings or how tiring the day can be. For some, the demands of learning and following rules can also feel overwhelming. Recognising this dip as a normal stage can help parents stay calm and supportive.
Build consistent routines
Children thrive on predictability. Keeping to steady routines around bedtime, morning preparation and after-school wind-downs helps them feel secure. A good night’s sleep and enough downtime at home can make a big difference to how they cope during the school day.
Keep communication open
Ask your child about their day but avoid pressuring them for answers the moment they come out of the classroom. Simple, open questions like, “What made you smile today?” can encourage conversation. Listening carefully and showing empathy reassures your child that their feelings are valid.
Focus on positives
Celebrate the small successes like a picture they drew, a story they enjoyed or a new friend they made. Highlighting what they like about school can balance out any worries and help them see the positives.
Work with the school
If you’re concerned, don’t hesitate to speak with your child’s teacher. They see your child in the classroom and can offer insight, reassurance and strategies to help. Teachers are used to children experiencing this adjustment phase and will want to work with you.
Be patient
Most children move past this stage with time and support. By staying consistent and encouraging, you help them build resilience and confidence.
Remember: it’s completely normal for the sparkle of school to fade after the first few weeks. With patience and gentle encouragement, your child will soon adapt to the rhythm of school life and begin to discover all the joy and learning it has to offer.
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