Understanding Emotionally Based School Avoidance (EBSA): A guide for parents
EBSA goes beyond a simple lack of interest in school, it involves deep-seated emotional distress that prevents them from attending. This blog post will help you know when EBSA becomes serious, how to seek help and how best to support your child.
When does EBSA become serious?
EBSA is more than occasional reluctance to go to school. It becomes serious when your child consistently refuses to attend school due to anxiety, depression or other emotional issues. Signs to watch for include frequent complaints of physical illnesses (like stomach aches or headaches) on school days, extreme distress at the thought of going to school and prolonged absences. According to recent statistics from the Anna Freud Centre, persistent absenteeism has more than doubled since the Covid-19 pandemic, with 22.3% of pupils in the 2022/23 academic year being persistently absent.
How to speak to the school for help
If you suspect your child is experiencing EBSA, it’s crucial to communicate with their school. Here’s how to approach it:
- Schedule a meeting: Arrange a meeting with your child’s teacher, school counsellor or headteacher. Be open about your concerns and provide specific examples of your child’s behaviour and symptoms.
- Collaborate on a plan: Work with the school to develop a support plan tailored to your child’s needs. This might include adjustments to their timetable, access to a quiet space or regular check-ins with a trusted staff member.
- Seek professional support: The school can often refer you to external support services, such as educational psychologists or child mental health professionals. These experts can provide additional strategies and interventions.
How to act at home
Supporting your child at home is equally important. Here are some strategies:
- Create a safe space: Ensure your child feels safe and understood at home. Encourage open conversations about their feelings and reassure them that their emotions are valid.
- Establish a routine: Consistent routines can provide a sense of security. Try to maintain regular sleep, meals and study schedules.
- Gradual exposure: Gradually reintroduce school-related activities. Start with short visits to the school or meeting friends from school in a neutral setting.
- Positive reinforcement: Celebrate small victories and progress. Positive reinforcement can boost your child’s confidence and motivation.
Reassurance for parents
It’s natural to feel overwhelmed when your child is struggling with EBSA, but remember, you are not alone. Many families face similar challenges, and there is help available. Schools are increasingly aware of EBSA and are equipped to support affected students. Plus, organisations like the Anna Freud Centre offer resources and guidance for parents.
Remember, while EBSA can be a daunting challenge, early intervention and a collaborative approach with your child’s school can lead to positive outcomes. Understanding the signs, seeking help and providing support at home can help your child navigate this difficult period and work towards a happier, more stable school experience.
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